CHILD THERAPY

"Child Guide Therapy" is a science "Child Therapy" that must be mastered by the Parents and the "Guide Child Therapy" in overcoming "Kids" is "Problematic" in the Family.

Parents Become Effective for Children's son is not easy. The idea that each would be reflective Parents can educate their children, it is not true. Becoming Parents simply by instinct fatherhood and motherhood alone is not appropriate. Need a special science dealing with the problem called "Child Guide Therapy" or in general can be called "Child Therapy." Can also called the science that deal "Problem Kids."

 

As a Parent, although the son was a baby has even been obliged to separate science for Kids program to grow into a generation of pious, healthy and smart. In addition, to handle the problem "Problem Children" is so complicated and various, so that the necessary knowledge about the Problem Solving Kids. Parent task is not limited to material needs only to their Children, but also obliged to build spiritual and personal Kids are clean and healthy too.

 

May the Blog "Child Therapy | Therapy Guide Children" can be useful for Parents and as a solution in the face of a Problem Child in the Family.

 
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CHILD THERAPY COWARD

Excessive fear can create personality and psychological development of children is very bad person, even to make it mentally weak and overwhelmed another personality crisis. Though this life requires a strong mental resilience, excellence and become strong.

Coward soul does not happen by itself, but as the impact of attitude as follows;

1. Mendongengkan lurid stories, such as about jinn or demons. Actually, the tales of heroism and adventure more to educate and foster a brave soul.

2. The mothers love to scare the kids with the darkness. To remove fear (phobia) of the child's feelings, gandenglah hand towards the dark room, explaining that the feared it was not there. Then the children get used to always sleep with the lights turned off.

3. Besides space and dark atmosphere, the mothers often frighten the animals, for example, cockroaches, rats, worms and so forth. Thereby making the child becomes disgusted and frightened by berlabihan, then etched in his soul and is very difficult neutralized again. Even his own mother was so "disgusted" that the child's bandwagon. Although mothers should feel disgust and fear, must hide her phobinyaitu, in order to reduce the sense of "horror" on the child.
One of the means to be human is not the all fear; fear of harm, fear of failure, fear of animals, fear of the dark and the other is to be trust in Allah, and to train themselves gradually to foster courage in all areas. Mothers who spirited coward would make a serious impact on people, because ditangannyalah placed a new generation of personality development.
Dr. Ahmad Amin in his book "Fiadhul Khootir (The Excessive concern) said:" The biggest responsibility for the education of a child in the hands of the mother. Woman or mother is a myriad of hope for the people. Heart of a mother to be brave like a guard who was not daunted by the variety of Scud attacks, boombardir weapons, blast bombs and traps mines. No matter the attack from the sea, land or air. A mother should tough to drive the best sons and daughters to jump into the battlefield fighting against the enemy. It is appropriate to say the woman is a guard who creates in the soul of heroic sons and daughters of the nation. One great if some thought that the army men with weapons lenkap enough without the support of "troops who escorted the woman to his heart.

4. One Education. Lots of fear caused educates parents if I was wrong. The father often apply in home education the hard way; give heavy sanctions and threats. Attitudes such as this lead shriveled hearts of children, a growing sense of fear of excessive and unstable soul.

5. A bad memory. Childhood experiences that never happened, over something that happened to him, can also be added causal timid child. To overcome this we need observations on the base of the cause, then try mentherapinya appropriately.
Hopefully by this reference, we can overcome the problem of children. #####

CHILD THERAPY SINGLE

I have just met someone. I noticed he was so nervous. After the conversation I knew that he was worried about her son. He complained about the declining value of the lesson, physically weak and rather sickly.

"Is your son an only child?" I asked to guess.

"True ... but how do you guess that?"

"I know from your anxiety and your talks constantly about her just" I explained.

"It was ... my son is the only hope for me and for his mother. He was the gem of the liver. We're always concerned at each spring end. When he complained of pain, give very nervous, restless anxiety, heart pounding us so." he said.

"Will you tell me about your son's tantrums?" I pleaded.

"Sure ..."

"He was ... like an absolute ruler. If one just wants us ignore, he will be inflamed by a variety of ways. He pretended to be sick, even fell unconscious ... then got angry and kicked-gebrak, can diatasikah him? " said the father.

Before he went I interrupted, "Wait a minute ... let me go mgengenai act of your son. He is definitely a hunger strike because there is only a small problem, his soul and his character emotionally unstable, his body emaciated, not sleeping soundly, if the sick do not want to drink drug, if cranky difficult persuaded, short of logic because it is too full of his demands, he liked .... cranky, analisku.

"Enough ... enough ...! You reveal his character as if he had known him. How do you know the details like that?" the father was surprised.

"Symptoms like it's not surprising anymore. That's an average of only child temperament. The characters are easily recognized and often ciceramahkan by many psychologists." I said.

"Whether these psychologists have special tips to deal with and educate the child?" the father asked.

"Treatment is in the hands of your own." I replied.

"How?" he demanded.

"The first key is to have faith in God with resignation and trust in Him. After that exert both your obligations as a father and mother. Think and then decide kabaikan possibilities for your son or daughter. Do not be too berlabihan in showing affection. Take control away from its demands are not unreasonable. " I explain.

The father is crying, for some reason, then he asked, "If we were not able strictly to it, is there any other way?"

"If you both can not explicitly with the sole fruit of your heart, then send it to a boarding school to get an education personality, kemndirian and intensive discipline. If you both still did not have the heart, Leave to the nearest relatives, so the dependence on the parents can overcome.

In boarding school or at home closest relatives, he would grow normally like other children. Because there's nothing to spoil. He was separated from its original environment, grows in self confidence. Once this confidence grew stronger, he may take you back.

If BNapak and his mother insisted, was reluctant to do this sort of assertiveness, your son or daughter on the brink of danger, be it for himself, family and community. @@@

CHILD THERAPY RUN AWAY FROM HOME

Many cases of children who run away from home or from school and then live vagrancy and wandering the streets, in supermarkets and reside in any place in the wild this. Why is that such behavior occur?

Due to heavy sanctions from parents or from teachers.

How dangerous when exposed to the raids and then placed dipenampungan bad boys, because it's where the danger is ready to confront. Among the existing dipenampungan there may be criminal and the people at the rehab center they can affect other children who are innocent or not contaminated by poor morale.

Habit of running away from home when not handled therapis by the parents and phsikiater, will develop into a very komlek problems and membuahka crime. One of the excesses of such behavior is a favorite lie, like the attack and may be trapped in the crime of stealing.

Whys and wherefores of a child running away from home, among others;

1. Seeing Talent Adventure

When you see kids have a tendency to like the outdoors a beautiful scenery, then he'll love the natural adventures like rock climbing, go up the mountain, sporting a touch with the outdoors and so forth. This is a talent that needs channeling. Even can be added with care activities ligkungan, enghijauan and so forth which are in addition to the adventure as well as scientific.

Many Western families established many clubs widya tour is a combination of recreation and interest (talent) of the participants. This discussion is positive activities to fill the school vacation time. If a club-like KUB is not used, children will divert the tendency to violence. The teachers, instructors and parents could be handed a book of adventure to give encouragement and direction to the child.

2. Sensitivity of the Soul Age Children.

Children have a sensitive soul that he erima mistreatment. When their human rights is pressed, they will be quick to react, then kaburlah it from home to avoid the pain and ketersinggungannya.

Be gentle and respect as human beings who need to independence dalaj decide everything. Treat your children well and fairly. Improve her attitude with the wise, treat ill-ills such as a doctor to his patient. Use existing references to books pandua child psychology.

3. There is a hatred or hostility.

The cause of children run away from home can also be caused because there is a school's home or despised. Especially in schools often there is competition and hostility. This can lead to fights. If this situation is not immediately dierai, then either party felt compelled to get out of school.

Besides, methods and ways of teaching does not match the talent of the child so they are very depressed, feeling very stupid and anxiety would doubt that they will be receiving. Everything itlah that make children run away from the school bench.

How to handle?

When the situation at home that became the trigger his departure, then the parents should create peace at home, away from noise and quarrels among family members.

When the school situation that became the base of the problem, should the teachers themselves about teaching instropeksi yag manuju direction methods that can be received by the students. Selaraska method of learning with living needs as widely.

4. Not Accept Reality.

Can also the soul of the child does not want to accept the realities of life, he dreamed of life which is too delicious, delicious food and all the needs are always met. He ran away from home in the hope that, outside the house can eat well despite having a variety of ways by which this occurred.

Parents need to pay attention to this problem. Give to children who become their needs, although in a simple form. In any problem like this the government is obliged to provide compensation to families who have not been able. Because they include the essential elements of society as well. If they both will bring good social impact as well. Conversely, if Kaun dhuafa damaged, would disrupt the social setabilitas worse.

How beautiful that has been practiced as if Islam, by building institutions to raise funds specifically for poor children. It seems that the state budget did not provide helpful section for poor children adequately. It needs to find a way out.

CHILD THERAPY OVER-ACTIVE

There are some kids who make the dizziness of his parents, because tikah over-active behavior. Children who move excessively like that like destroying toys, each object dismantled and disrupted.

What cause?

1. Move, play and a sense of always wanted to know was the instinct of each child. Because a sense of curiosity, which is why he likes to disassemble, tamper with and arrange or set-nata. This is a fairness, a trait given to the children's souls. Unfortunately many parents do not understand it.

We often see children amazed at the clock ticking sound. his eyes bulged, his face showing ekpresinya curiosity, and then watch it dibongkarnya then try again assembled. Of course watch it become damaged. A wise father will not be angry to see such tikah doings of their children, even giving the child an opportunity to develop a memadahi nalamnya power.

How do I fix this?

Buy toys that resemble authentic items, so the brain can add modifiers dibongkarnya and without our parents to be a big loss. Toys that can be dismantled pairs strongly support the development of the child's sense of mechanical power. Better yet, provide an arena to make it special, so they do not switch to another home furnishings, which are at home.

Action to punish and prohibit touching items that be a concern, is a very big mistake for parents. If you membelenggunya instead they will mess up stuff that was in the house. Besides that would handcuff the creativity of children who may have talent as an inventor maupaun thinker. It could also make the child has the inner pressure so that the child has a mental problem is very big.

Toy robot-robotan, plastic boxes or wood or other crafts dapatb a good medium for the child's mental development.

2. Compensation From Pain Jealousy.

There are times when the destruction of goods which do not because the child's sense of curiosity, but from a sense of "revenge" her because of her jealousy towards her sister or a more pampered by her parents.

3. Psychological Symptoms What Not Fair.

Over-Active can also a child not because of her jealousy, distress, resentment and sense of curiosity, but can also be caused by an unusual psychiatric symptoms. If this is the cause then the parents should immediately consult a psychiatrist children .@@@@

CHILD THERAPY MACGREGOR AND NAIL BITER

Finger sucking and nail biting is a bad habit because of the germs can enter ketubuh. Besides, can damage teeth and jaw neatness.

Why do kids like to do anakkecil this habit?

Some argue that the habit of sucking fingers is a sign of progress is slow mind, is biting the finger sign of the energy depletion or weakness of the body of the child because of lack of sleep. What causes the other?

1. Lack of Compassion

Psychologists argue that the habits of small children sucking and biting finger nails due to lack of ideal love and attention of parents. To address them, of course, parents must provide a warm love and attention to children, so the step-by tahapkebiasaan unhealthy can be eliminated.

2. Idem With Children Make causes noise

Nail biting and finger sucking, the cause together with a child who likes to make noise at home. They know that it ulahnya annoy her parents, but they deliberately do to seek attention.

3. Jealousy and Jealousy

Therapy causes feelings of jealousy and envy are discussed in the previous chapter.

The experts further psychiatric menjelaskanlebih that finger sucking habit of children due to mental problems could also be due to the bearing. Regardless of why and how difficult, such behavior must cease immediately. Parents need to seriously train the child to be able to leave little by little habit. Do not be too pushy, give attention and tenderness until the child does not like to insert his fingers into his mouth. @ @ @

CHILD THERAPY GRUMPY

Emotion is a psychological phenomenon that can not be muted immediately. Emotions can be controlled by way of restraint and control. Self-control should be trained on the child's parents, for it is the most appropriate treatment. There's no way his father and mother can stop relying denganb strength. Emotions are controlled from within ourselves is the most good, moderate control from the outside actually makes children become depressed and troubled soul, his personality might rupture. Therefore, parents should be careful. Make the child is able to put the brakes on its own all the turmoil that attacks the soul.

Why is emotional child?

A child will rebel as pelampiasannya against the prohibitions of their parents. For example, children who are prohibited bmain, the child must be mutiny. Like playing is the nature of the child, the nature. Parents and teachers should be sensitive attention to this problem. Do not like banning children not to play as long as it does not harm him. Arena can be transferred with the harmful activities that contain challenges but has great educational value. It has also been we describe above.

What Causes Emotional Child?

Many factors that cause children to become emotional, among others;

1. Iri Heart And Jealousy.

Parents who do not show love and equal attention to children's children can trigger jealousy. Unfair treatment will memercikan rage a brother against brother or vice versa. Religion gave the order for the membewri something, parents should be fair.

2. Brother Or Friend of annoyance.

Annoyance brother or friend's friend will make the child angry. To avoid further commotion, she should be separated with her friends who like to disrupt.

3. Imitating Daddy's attitude - his mother.

Parents who emotionally automatically lead to the same trait. Berakhklan restraint and patience is a must exemplified akhklak parents towards their children as a teaching akhklak and personality.

4. Capacity Exceeded Expenses.

Do not give tasks that exceed the limits on your baby. Will not produce anything except disobedience alone. Excessive Anger will lead to heart disease and hypertension.

If the child cries too much, with "kelosotan on the floor", and then scratching the face and body, "demonstration" of this kind should be immediately discontinued. You can consult with a physician psychiatric children. Car is very good in dealing with your children appropriately.

At times, anger, crying that is the way he wants to sulk for terraih. We must be vigilant, sulking like that is not always our tolerance. By not always obey rengekkannya, the nature of sulking like that will stop by itself.

Although the nature of anger was not good, Tati do not extinguished altogether. Anger as a general psychiatric symptoms is still needed by humans. Good handling is to train the child to control himself so as not excessive. Even if your child has a temperament like that, we can distribute it to the proper functions, for example, to defend her honor and so forth.

"Beware you of the anger, that he is a glowing ember in the hearts of the descendants of Adam. It is not you look to someone of you when he is angry with how his eyes became red and her neck muscles tense. And if someone would be angry, let him lie down or put him to the ground. "

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THERAPY ON CHILDREN

Some people consider that an active child has a disorder. Good boy they think is the calm (quiet), not much play and not much Demand. Such presumption is wrong and needs to be revamped.

Indeed, a child like motion and make the house messy, become noisy and chaotic. Toys strewn everywhere, a lot of broken furniture, suasananyapun become rowdy and noisy by the sound of chatter, scream and their toys, but it is not ugliness.

At the age of the children, motion and activity is a fundamental requirement. Activities play it will facilitate the blood circulation and strengthen muscles and bone joints. That's very good for physical and mental growth. His body became strong and his soul becomes cheerful.

Previously, our homes have a large yard-wide, in addition to the house, there are still remaining land yard with trees that shade-shade by beautiful trees. Large yard makes children can bergwerak fro without any stress. But let's look at the present time, the houses dibangan Western-style country that does not leave a large yard as a playground of children. KOndidi thus making them very depressed, because the instinct of play is not channeled. Eventually the kids making noise in the house which of course makes interference calmness, neatness house that had been arranged with difficulty. As a place to channel instinctive motion, the kids were playing badminton in the narrow alleys, football and so is of course very dangerous, because these roads as a last-passing people and vehicles passing by. adahal one hand prohibits children from playing as well so that the physical shackles kekanakannya instinct becomes weak.

What is the most appropriate solution?

Very good if we leave a room or yard to play and so the child can move freely. Provide ala-play appliance that can make a child move freely, so as not to "expansion" into another room that could damage the karapian, tranquility and home furnishings.

So, if your child is active, move around and like to play, then bergemberilah. That is a sign of normality. Instead jiga your child slow motion, like instead, like silent and not creative, then it adalahg signs should alert the morbidity and medicine. Children with limited movement would be apathetic, his soul is not normal, his spirit die, lazy and not powered. @ @ @

CHILD THERAPY RETARDED

Retarded child is a child who can not afford to do as children of normal age. His personality is weak and insecure. Way of thinking slow, unbalanced movements mute, emotionally and jiwanyapun unstable.

Why did it happen so?

Parents who like to criticize sharply, like mencemoof, harassing, showering insults and lashes, make a child feel depressed. The attitude of people like this regrettable Rua. They are too demanding of the child as if not allowed to make mistakes at all and are required to do perfect in every way.

Utterances that were painful for instance: "You stupid child, fail and mess not like your brother and your sister! Or" Why do not you like The A, Si B, ...", and so on.

Such criticisms would meyakitkan liver dam makes the child lose his confidence. Children who are too dictated, then the soul will be frozen. The soul of a child is very sensitive, all words that hurt his pride will mengean deeply in the soul and memory.

What is needed by the children is the encouragement and guidance on an ongoing basis to foster a strong sense of confidence. Do not be broken if he makes mistakes, but motivasilah. Say that mistakes are experiences to the truth.

Sometimes outrageous that treat the child not just the mother or father, but also other relatives, in order to obtain more attention from their parents. If these conditions occur, such as parents should immediately intervene and straighten. @ @ @ #

CHILD THERAPY LIKE BEDWETTING

Children love bedwetting during sleep. They do not feel that at bedtime he urinated in bed. What is the cause?

1. Could be because there is disease in his body, for example, urinary tract infection, urine acidity conditions, the food is less nutritious, anemia, and other symptoms sebagainya.Karena psikhis that if the child until the extreme wet and constantly, need to be sent to the doctor. It could also cause it is the child unable to defecate. Fluids and accumulate unused, thereby increasing urine intolerable olaeh the child.

2. The child is eating too many foods that contain water berkuah or before bed. We recommend that the mother can reduce this habit and train the child barangkat pee before bed.

3. For Attention Seeking

If the mother is too close to his brother, he is not jealous. To achieve his attention, then he wet the bed.

4. The Scary Tale

Spooky tale is told as an accompaniment to sleep, make a child emotionally carried away. Her fear was diwujudkanya with bedwetting.

Bedwetting can be a sign of the child's psyche is very complex. Parents must be responsive to examine its causes in order to cope with appropriately. Do you scold children who wet the bed. Ask the gentleness of a mother, why she wet the bed? A wise attitude like this can help the healing mengompolnya. Give praise when he does not wet the bed. @ @ @

CHILD THERAPY NO APPETITE

Children are often reluctant to eat. Appears to have no appetite. If this is allowed it will affect his health. When you find your child's condition so, then you should consider the following:

1. Examined the child to a doctor to make the child has the desire to eat and to anticipate them from various diseases.

2. Do not make a static child, let him play, moving in the open that has fresh air and beautiful scenery, especially if your house is not large, the children need to be a trip to the garden or village not far from where you live.

3. Do not be too force the child to eat something he does not like it or not hooked. Chose other nutritious foods that she likes.

4. The atmosphere of eating together should be made as comfortable and as often as possible. Do not bring family problems into the dining room table, this will make a lost appetite.

5. Perhaps the reluctance of children to eat food because they're annoyed at the mother or father. It may also require food things his way. If he sulked like it, do not be obeyed. Leave it alone. Because if his stomach hunger, yet will eat well with the existing dishes.

6. If the child is already tired of walking, no doubt, he was reluctant to eat rice. Today many types of food children are made in various flavors and attractive packaging. Various types of candy, snacks, bread and cakes are sold in all stores to encourage children like to snack. If snacks are more dominant, he was reluctant to eat the staple food. The mother must be good at adjusting the diet for their children based on healthy eating, in the development and growth of healthy children do not lose with their whining, because the consequences will be bad. @ @ @

CHILD THERAPY SLACKER

Children do not be lazy handled incorrectly. Punish and humiliate not change the right way, maybe even make a child become self-conscious and less confident. Kepribadiannyapun become sluggish. Slacker child needs attention and an appropriate therapy.

What causes the child became an idler?

Many factors influence it, among others;

1. Disease Anemia (lack of blood)

If you see your child's condition lethargic, less passionate and lazy eating, quick check with your doctor to get healing.

2. How to Educate ynag Wrong

How to educate the hard (authoritarian) and threatening, making a child's brain becomes dull. As a result the child is not responsive to the environment.

3. Pampered

Love mom and dad yangb excessive, making the child's feelings to be blunt, do not want to understand other people, do not have the spirit of tolerance and indifference to the environment.

4. How Teaching In Schools The Passive

Teaching methods text books, passive, not creative and make your child look lazy. Yangb subjects also too dense and coercion menmbuat child feels very heavy and reluctant. Should be included in teaching compassion teachers. Compassion is the main requirement seorangb children as well as eating.

5. Parents Keacuhan

Both parents do not participate when the child first enters school, when something new is very confusing for small children. Therefore, the involvement of parents, especially mothers, it helps your child enters his new world. If the father and mother did not get to drive and stayed with him, could be replaced by another family anggouta or servant.

6. Houses that do not Rapi

Housing conditions are chaotic, not clean and untidy, make the concentration to learn the child to be disturbed. His mind does not become clear and ultimately not excited when they want to go to school. @ @ @

CHILD THERAPY DEFIANT

There are several causes that need to be, why sianak become rebels, namely;

1. Too Many Tasks Filled Si Disadvantaged Children

Expenses that this makes the child suppress revolt. To melerainya we can give that the tasks that must be implemented it is very helpful to him if properly fulfilled.

2. Both Parents Not In The Attitude

If the father ordered the child to be this way then the mother must also be an attitude. Per5bedaan between father and mother's attitude in dealing with children, make children become rebellious.

3. An Education Expert Says;

Revolt of the child is an expression of self-defense against orangb parents, though it's not proportional. Rebellion children can also arise from the condition of exhaustion that makes children emotionally unstable.

4. Appearances Educators The charismatic No

Performance (performance), an educator who is not charismatic, makes the children become reluctant to him. Often parents push and sent sianak based on his own ambition is one of the factors causing the child to be defiant and rebellious.

Parents are required to fix the condition, by changing his attitude is wrong. start by not ruling and ordered to do something that is not capable of implementation. If the child remains bundle, refuse orders, the parents do not easily give up. Finish up by giving advice that his hard stance was not helpful, give the sense also that convey the desire to be done with a calm and polite manner.

5. Governing With the Urgent mode

If you demand the child immediately execute your commands, the result is not the fulfillment of the command, tetapin quite the contrary, the child will rebel. So sometimes succumb actions more wisely. Give children freedom in wills.

6. Parent Attitudes Unfair

Attitudes to distinguish between children with one another, can foster a sense of envy and resentment. In the end, make them like disobedient, memberontaj and ornery.

7. Rigid attitude Parents

The emergence of disobedience and rebellion of a child can also be caused by parents' attitudes are rigid, hard and did not want to compromise. In fact, if done with a soft, gentle and wise it will be better results.

8. Over Protective (protection of the excessive)

The mothers often feel a sense of excessive anxiety over their children. I'm scared to fall from trees, float times and so forth, so that her children locked up in a home with constant supervision. Try the kids to know nature and to give freedom to play in the open. @ @ @

RELIGIOUS PERSONALITY CHILD THERAPY

Religion has the ability in the direction toward humans. Kahidupan we will be crippled if our souls ruled by sheer lust. A folosof said: "People without faith (religion) is very dangerous to himself and society." How do we form a belief on our children's self?

There are three stages:

1. Understanding and Control

With an understanding of nature formed the child's thinking about faith. We explain the importance of those beliefs batapa SetIP human life. We direct them to witness the phenomena of nature, then we BWA into the nature of faith about the essence and nature of Almighty God glory. We invested in the person of the child that, underestimate and ignore the faith that makes no sense.

2. Growing Pain Love Of God.

We can direct the child's soul to the belief that the way to grow strong with the love of God, that how God gave telh yng pleasures infinite and incomparable to any human.

3. Fostering diversity By Ajeg (countinue)

With religious activity that is steady, we can direct our kids confidence to the belief that solid. We are building with continuous, it will menancaplah faith in their hearts.

There are several examples of this, for example, we show about the wonders of nature as God's creation, how awesome His system is implemented, regularly and carefully. After that we bring them to the essence of God pikirn, selanjutny kit show at every appearance of Maha Her love of God, Most Benevolent, the Supreme Court and so on. We could mention all the pleasure and the good that will be accepted by the believers and the pious on the Day of Judgement in the future.

The next stage we motivate children to do and do things that can strengthen the faith until the act becomes a habit which had settled. The first stage in the strengthening of this faith is to keep them away from the hesitant and indecisive attitude towards God. We guide them with patience until it tetanam sturdy faith. @@@

CHILD THERAPY LIKE THEFT

Blogging steal can be caused by many factors, among others:

1. Very Strong Desire Children

If a child wants something that is very strong and he felt sanagt need it, so parents should be able to ensure the fulfillment of tututan it. Do not be too stingy and miserly with the children, because it would encourage the attitude like stealing. If this happens, no doubt the moral crisis would get attacked by the kids.

2. Influenced by reading and Television.

Detective stories in the children's story books, films are also similar, make a child obsessed with imitating the same. They make "gangs" and then stormed into the "Gang" other. Should the children be transferred to a positive activity, such as scouting, student or tourist-sports clubs.

3. Environment carried away.

If the father or mother, friend neighbor thief character, then to not get stuck in this bad Millieu, makaanak children should be immediately transferred to a safe and orderly environment. If not, it will carry over environmental flows.

4. Envy and revenge.

Many of the children steal just to annoy his friends. Giving advice and guidance where good and bad things to children, it is important to handle this problem. It also directs them to each other Compassionate and helping with others.

5. Know No Boundaries Rights.

Most causes of theft among children because they instinctively want to have, without understanding the boundary between one's own rights and property of others. They mgambil everything what he saw.

It is the responsibility of parents and teachers in schools to inform about the rights of others and respect it. If a male friend's mengambail may lead to return.

In the rumahpun parents should teach children to menghotmati belongings brother and sister. If he needed it must be by borrowing or by permission of the owner.

Stealing is a lot of its kind. Stealing other character toys with stealing a cake or food. No matter how sepelenya stolen goods, we must hurry to prevent and alter the character so as not more developed.

Father / mother who caught her stealing something, often regret their children, for not keeping the family name. Such action is inappropriate, even going to be bad for their children. The most appropriate action is to change the child and memmindahkan mellieu to school or other environment. # # #

CHILD THERAPY LIAR

Merupakar lie very despicable character and source of evil. Parents must protect their children from the bad deeds of this early on.
Why do children like to lie?
May be due to the following:
1. Rigid character Parents
The attitude of parents harsh and rigid character in applying the principles and discipline, making children forced to lie after lie. This is a way of saving him from the anger and the punishment his father and mother.
2. Parents Like Lying
Parents like this are very potential to produce children of high caliber liar. Although he tried to advise their children not to lie, his advice will not be ignored. Because the principle of education is exemplary.
If you as parents to give counsel and advice that lying is a sin, then the middle of giving "advice" came a knock at the door and then your message to the child: "if A came to say that the father was not at home", then his advice would be redundant, futile and useless.
3. Compensation For The Children
The child has certain shortcomings, and he compensates by lying about him. For example, he imagined a Power Ranger, became Superman and forth to cover her penakutnya and others.
4. The Children Want Praised
Maybe because they want to show the ability of the child was praised and applauded for acting up.
5. Children Receiving Many stories lie
The teachers and parents often give fictional tales that did not contain i'tibar. As a result the child is full of fantasy image is empty. Though many exemplary stories contained in the Qur'an. We recommend that teachers and parents are very selective in fairy tales.
6. Imaginative
Power of imagination in childhood grew enormously. They love to tell herself imaginatively that Anah had seen something somewhere, meet idol, hero worship and so forth. She would talk about as if in a dream, unable to distinguish between reality and fantasy.
We, the parents, however, should lead them to be able to distinguish the real world with a surreal, through advice and training services.

CHILD THERAPY DISSIDENT

Many parents complain about kids who dissidents; like to argue, fight and stubborn. What exactly is the cause? There are many factors that shape such attitudes, among others:

1. Parent command is not in harmony with the nature of age. For example, ban the father or mother to their children who liked toys bangkar-unloading. If these activities continue to be prohibited, would really handcuff creativity. So this is the same obedience mebelanggu child's imagination.

2. Parent command is inconsistent. One time his father forbade do this, next time be left alone.

3. Parent command beyond the capacity or ability of the child. Commands that exceed the limits will make the child hate Kepa parents, resulting in family disharmony and the child shall be a dissident. To the solution, then orders can be made slowly.

4. Children's mental condition. Dissident nature can also be caused by the child's mental state itself. There is a certain child has a mind and mental retardation. They very slow development. Parents who have sons and daughters are like this, should be gentle, loving and wise, so it can help the child toward normality.

5. The lack of parental knowledge about the methods of education. Every child has talents and abilities of each. Parents should be observant to see the talent specs of each child, so do not be authoritarian. Many parents push their children to choose majors and faculty who do not suit the tastes of the child. If such attitudes are not quickly realized, it will produce a very heavy burden for the children of his own daughter. Do not consider any of their rejection is the attitude of defiance.

6. Forcing implicitly. Unconsciously, parents sometimes be wrong with their children, for example, ruled: "Bring me the cold water!", "Bring it ... it ... and so on, lalumenambahkan praise which is actually a veiled coercion and said" My son is obedient, he never refused to take cold water for us.. "Such orders are not impressed by the tolerance in the family. Virtually every child really like to praise and need respect. In the ruling, we can use language that can memotifasinya perform certain acts on the ground helping. Do not be weighted with this command and it was with a tone of forced. The way that this will only make children become irritated, which will ultimately impersonal and terjajilah labile personality crisis whose impact would extend to the community.

7. The command is not timely. Do not rule anything when recording is playing, eating or studying. Pick the right time. There is nothing wrong we let the kids play as he pleased from useful to him. Actually it is not why we are told to buy something at the store closest to home we'll give him his toys tolerance to finish first.

8. Giving meaning to the child. No harm, we also give sense to the child. For example, when not afford to buy a new bike for him, we tell him to be patient. We give explanations slowly about mangapa income parents and should not be forcing yourself to buy a new bike. We describe the wise that the price was not affordable bike parental abilities. If forced, it will shift the basic necessities. This attitude is more thoughtful than angry.

We close this chapter by quoting a message from an expert on education: "If you want to obtain obedience (devotion) of a child, take the time to learn of things about your son or daughter; What he was thinking and how to handle it properly!" Remember the promise you gave to him and stick. Explain the causes if the petition could not be fulfilled at the appointed time for your children put on your self-confidence. Being a parent obligation to give the award to his children as a reward for devotion and taatnya. We can express by giving gifts at certain moments as the driver of the child's growing devotion to his parents. Make yourself a pair of parents who like to reach out and be generous by giving awards. Real joy to receive gifts merupakanfitrah every human being, both children and adults. ***