1. Parent command is not in harmony with the nature of age. For example, ban the father or mother to their children who liked toys bangkar-unloading. If these activities continue to be prohibited, would really handcuff creativity. So this is the same obedience mebelanggu child's imagination.
2. Parent command is inconsistent. One time his father forbade do this, next time be left alone.
3. Parent command beyond the capacity or ability of the child. Commands that exceed the limits will make the child hate Kepa parents, resulting in family disharmony and the child shall be a dissident. To the solution, then orders can be made slowly.
4. Children's mental condition. Dissident nature can also be caused by the child's mental state itself. There is a certain child has a mind and mental retardation. They very slow development. Parents who have sons and daughters are like this, should be gentle, loving and wise, so it can help the child toward normality.
5. The lack of parental knowledge about the methods of education. Every child has talents and abilities of each. Parents should be observant to see the talent specs of each child, so do not be authoritarian. Many parents push their children to choose majors and faculty who do not suit the tastes of the child. If such attitudes are not quickly realized, it will produce a very heavy burden for the children of his own daughter. Do not consider any of their rejection is the attitude of defiance.
6. Forcing implicitly. Unconsciously, parents sometimes be wrong with their children, for example, ruled: "Bring me the cold water!", "Bring it ... it ... and so on, lalumenambahkan praise which is actually a veiled coercion and said" My son is obedient, he never refused to take cold water for us.. "Such orders are not impressed by the tolerance in the family. Virtually every child really like to praise and need respect. In the ruling, we can use language that can memotifasinya perform certain acts on the ground helping. Do not be weighted with this command and it was with a tone of forced. The way that this will only make children become irritated, which will ultimately impersonal and terjajilah labile personality crisis whose impact would extend to the community.
7. The command is not timely. Do not rule anything when recording is playing, eating or studying. Pick the right time. There is nothing wrong we let the kids play as he pleased from useful to him. Actually it is not why we are told to buy something at the store closest to home we'll give him his toys tolerance to finish first.
8. Giving meaning to the child. No harm, we also give sense to the child. For example, when not afford to buy a new bike for him, we tell him to be patient. We give explanations slowly about mangapa income parents and should not be forcing yourself to buy a new bike. We describe the wise that the price was not affordable bike parental abilities. If forced, it will shift the basic necessities. This attitude is more thoughtful than angry.
We close this chapter by quoting a message from an expert on education: "If you want to obtain obedience (devotion) of a child, take the time to learn of things about your son or daughter; What he was thinking and how to handle it properly!" Remember the promise you gave to him and stick. Explain the causes if the petition could not be fulfilled at the appointed time for your children put on your self-confidence. Being a parent obligation to give the award to his children as a reward for devotion and taatnya. We can express by giving gifts at certain moments as the driver of the child's growing devotion to his parents. Make yourself a pair of parents who like to reach out and be generous by giving awards. Real joy to receive gifts merupakanfitrah every human being, both children and adults. ***
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